“Why fit in whe you are born to stand out?!”
“Why fit in whe you are born to stand out?!”
It is part of “human’s” nature to seek what we call “happiness”. Every action we take, every word we say, is a result of “us” wanting to obtain “happiness”. During my short life, I have learned that obtaining happiness could be so easy, but sometimes it could seem impossible. Whether it is impossible or “a piece of cake” it all depends on how you see it or want to see it. If I were to define “what is happiness”, I would say that no words could describe it the best. It is a funny feeling; it tickles all your emotions, and brings peace to your mind and soul. I happen to be one of those who would see happiness as “impossible”, or at least I was, but over the past few years I came to realize that “I” can be “happy” too, just few techniques could turn that frown on my face to a wonderful smile. I might be right and I might be wrong, but I will list some ways to happiness that I have learned over that past few years hoping that those “ways” could at least put a smile on your faces.
1. Ignore people:
Satisfying “humans” is a hopeless case. Ignore their opinions and comments for a while ; because no matter what you do, and no matter how you hard you try, they will never ever be 100% satisfied with whatever you do in your life time. To make sure no one uses this method in a wrong way, I would like to tell you the following; you as a grown up should know when to ignore and when not to, because you might ignore their opinions and comments, however, you can’t deny their existence. You “at the right time” should consider certain factors before taking an action or saying a word such as culture, religion, and society, after all, you don’t want to hurt someone by your ignorance!!
2. Just be yourself:
“Just be yourself, because everyone else is taken”. Do not fake who you are, if you are a fun person, keep on being fun, if you are a quite one, keep on being one, don’t fake characteristics that don’t resemble you to impress others. If you think you are good, then be proud of what you are and how you look, talk, walk, and dress up. Don’t be something that is not you, because eventually you will feel lost and you would no longer be able to tell who you really are, and I guarantee you, being lost is not an amusing feeling.
3. Be honest, true, and transparent:
Don’t lie to others, don’t keep your feelings towards them hidden in your heart, don’t say something behind someone else and say the other in front of her/him. Always tell the truth even if it might cost you something, simply because “the truth shall set you free”. Telling the truth might cost you winning the first prize in some competition, but when it costs you the loss of someone you love, here you start asking yourself “is it worth telling the truth?”…. Well the answer is YES. Suppose one day you decided to be honest with your friend and tell her/him that you don’t like that fact that she/he is bossy…well..Pause for a second, because here comes the most important part….. it is important when you tell someone how you feel about them to use the appropriate words, body language, environment, situation, and timing. If you don’t want to lose your beloved one, consider those factors. Telling the truth about a lie that you have said or an exam that you have cheated on will not be an easy task but….it just feels great when you sleep at night with a clear conscience.
4. Be grateful:
Look around you, and put yourself in someone’s shoe. Look at those who have way worse conditions than you do. When your dad refuses to buy you the car you “Really, really” want, think of someone who’s both legs are amputated and the only way for him to reach his destination is an old wheelchair that he was barely able to afford. Now compare yourself to this person, can’t you already see all the blessings that you have around but you never appreciate them? Don’t you already feel grateful for being alive at this moment reading this very post?? Just by looking at ourselves in the mirror we should be more than grateful for every single thing we have even if they were almost invisible to us.
5. Treat people as you like to be treated:
If you like to be respected, then respect others, if you like to be listened to, then listen to others. When you treat people they way you like them to treat you, all you will do are good deeds, simply because you like to be treated good.
6. Find your purpose:
This could be the hardest thing to do, especially for people in our ages. Finding out “what do you live for” is not an easy task, however, you should ask yourself that question one day and you should seek for the answers within you. Having a sense of purpose in life will guide you to do right in every step you take.
7. Love and be loved:
It is such a wonderful feeling when your heart pumps fast when you see a certain person, this gives you a reason to wanting to live….you want to live for those who you love because they mean a lot to you.. Just loving someone is not enough; you also need to be loved to feel your value in life, and the way to others hearts are your deeds of course. Just be good, and people will love you for sure.
8. Unleash your anger:
When you’re mad at your instructor don’t go and shout out at your friend as a way of unleashing your anger…that is certainly not the appropriate way even if you have a very understanding friend. When you are mad don’t keep your anger locked in you, if you kept on doing that, you will develop some negative behaviors on the long run. So what is the best way to unleash your anger?? The answer is easy…..find yourself a hobby that calms you down such as painting, writing, or listening to music maybe, for some people they might tend to kick some of those bags that boxers use to practice boxing, some might calm down by jumping. Just find the best way that relaxes you, a way that will help you unleash your anger on emotionless and soulless objects, but not humans.
9. Fake a smile:
I know that previously I have criticized faking; however, this one is an exception. Fake a smile no matter what you are going through. Fake a smile not to deceive people and give them the impression that you are happy, yet do it for yourself. When you are in a terrible mood because let’s say you had a fight with someone, just put on a smile even if you don’t want to, even if it was so hard for you to do so, because that smile you fake will help you pass through that negative feeling easily even if you don’t realize that, because that smile, that positive attitude will give a message to your brain that “everything is just fine!!”.
10. Be immortal:
There’s no doubt that we all will go back to dust we are walking on now, but yet, you still can be immortal. When you still have the blessing of “life” contribute to the society and leave an unforgettable trace behind you, a good deed, or a good word you once did or said, will make people always remember, value, and respect you. A good deed, a good word will make you memorable, and therefore happy, either in this life or the other one later on.
Happiness is not everyone’s right, think of those men killing hundreds of innocent children every week; do you think they deserve to be happy?? Well, I doubt it. If you think you deserve happiness, then be happy, after all it you who you are living for, if you didn’t make yourself happy, no one else will no matter how hard they try….it’s you who can bring happiness to the remaining of your life.
“Imagination creats hope, hopes ends up with a disappointment, disappointment causes sadness, sadness develops to depression, depression leades to surrender, surrendering leads to failur, and failur leadest to NOWHERE !!! “
Have you ever paused for a minute to ask yourself the following question: Shall I confess?? Or shall I keep it to myself? I bet you all did at a certain point in your lives, but how hard could it possibly be to answer that question, or basically how hard could it be to take the action of CONFESSION?
Confessing means “reveling the truth”, reviling the truth as they say “shall set you free”. Regardless of how pleasant, motivating, and positive this expression sounds, sometimes it gets so hard to take the action of confession…….
I too have a confession to make, but fear is holding me back……fear of the consequences of telling the truth to the person who should hear it from me and no one else…… Due to my fear am keeping the truth, but there’s a voice inside my head telling me that not reviling the truth will only make it harder for me to cope with it as I won’t get the chance to see what is going to happen if I actually confessed….. So I reached a point where I had enough, I just wanted to say it out loud, not caring about anything but to get the burden of off my chest, and that voice in my head is shouting out loud and giving me the courage to set myself free, when there was a moment in which I only heard that voice a louder voice made me pause for a second, a voice that made me pause for a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month, a year, and another year……..yes my dear friends, I was so close to let it out but that voice, the loud voice of FEAR pulled me back again, and here I am now, writing while am still living an internal conflict whether to confess or not, and I began asking myself again: “ What if I confessed? What’s after that?” and the answer came none!!!
You might read this and next thing you do is writing a comment saying “just do it!!” but it is not as easy as you might assume……because once the words come out of your mouth, there’s no way to take them back and all you have to do is to bare with the consequences brought by that courage you had for a fraction of a second and decided to set yourself free. So the question that arises here is: “Is it worth confessing? Or should I remain puzzled for the rest of my life for not giving it a shot??”
If you ever found an answer then congratulations, you are no longer a prisoner of “Question”, you are simply a “FREE” soul.
The clock has strike twelve, it is the end of a year, and the beginning of another. Millions of people all over the world celebrate that strike of a clock, partying all night of the last day of the year, and continue to celebrate until the early hours of the next year. For so many people, these counted hours are so special, while to me, it’s just another day that passes by, it’s the same ticking that I hear coming from my watch; it’s the same sun and the same moon, so why do people celebrate the same things while there’s nothing special, I asked myself one day, and I did find the answer that I already knew.
With the end of a year and the beginning of another, people expect that things are going to change in blink of an eye, or at least that’s what they hope. We all, including me, begin the New Year with wishes and hopes that usually end with a great disappointment, speaking of myself, we all have a list of things we are hoping to see changing, or list of things that we are hoping to get as the New Year starts off. For some reason we believe that the strike of twelve at the new year’s eve is a magical moment, a turning point, a moment in which we forget everything for a second and we start thinking in a very positive manner as if things in the world are great leaving pessimism behind and ignoring all the ugly facts that we are going to face once that moment is gone, we think of it as a new beginning though everything turns out to be the exact same the next morning.
With the strike of twelve we make our wishes, and put a big smile on our faces as if our wishes just came true. With the New Year we expect new beginnings, victories, success in career and life, for some people more money is expected, world peace that never was real, painless hearts and souls, clean and comfortable consciences, new interesting people in our lives, new friendships, new love, and over all a happier life.
15 to twelve, I tried my hard to feel the magic in those last minutes left in 2011, I tried to feel happy about the upcoming new beginning, and sad for the ugly past and the present, but it was hopeless, I couldn’t feel a thing, I couldn’t lie to myself because I knew very well that it is just another day, just another 12!
I fell asleep, and that’s how I began my year, sleeping and dreaming some silly dream. It wasn’t special at all because I knew not much would change for me, I am not going to get what I want, I am not going to be any happier, I am not going to find a true love which I started to believe only existed in fairytales, I am not going to find the answers of all the questions I have on mind, I am not getting anything special this year. I was and still pessimistic about everything, but I have this hope in me that tells me my life is going to get better soon, maybe I am just lying to myself so I wouldn’t end up in a mental hospital due to being over depressed, or maybe because I am a human, and human beings always have this little bit of hope inside of them even in the very critical moments where hope doesn’t seem to have a chance to fit in. despite to all those “maybes” I still have hope, though sometimes I think hope is for losers, but the second I remember that sometimes and for some people that feeling we call hope develops due to faith in Allah (God) and faith in all the prayers that I have been saying, I change my mind and I cut that negative thinking immediately, so, as a correction of what I have said previously about having a little hope in me despite to all of the “maybes”, I would like to correct that by saying I have “Faith” in me that tells me my life is going to get better sooner or later, and I know for sure that Faith is stronger than hope, and for that reason it will keep me strong and unshakeable and would make any day in my life a special one as I will be impatiently waiting to see the promise that my faith has given me become true.
Dear readers….I really don’t have much to say about myself, as my dear friend Esperanza has said almost everything leaving me speechless
I would like to start off by saying that I have discovered my writing potentials a year ago maybe, it really felt great to discover a new talent which could mean a new path in my life..who knows…..
As Esperanza mentioned, I write occasionally, meaning when I get inspired by something or when I am depressed !!! Therefore, I won’t be posting a lot of writings due to time limit and a dilemma called ” writer’s block”…look at me I already count myself a “writer”….actually I want to leave that decision to you dear readers…..
Before I finish and post a writing of mine, I would like to thank Esperanza for supporting me so much and believing in me, it really means a lot dude
Thank you all for your time and I hope you enjoy my posts..
Over the past few months my bestie (meaning my best friend in the whole wide world “kid style) about her being an occasional author here and so today I came to announce her being a part of this blog.
I do not know how to introduce her in the most proper way but I’ll try my best because someone like her the words fail to acknowledge her. And even though she told me to send her a copy of the introduction before I publish it I refuse it fully as I want it to be a surprise to her as it is to you, she said ok but with some rules.. e7m. She has not decided on what name should she be under but meanwhile it is “RJA007” in the meantime. Yes you do see a James Bond code in the end apparently she thinks it is cool and even though I told her that using her original name with the spelling she uses it awesome, but meh ;p. I even told her to chose a name than “Writes” after it so we could be come the “Writes sisters” (lame I know) but also no.. she is still thinking. She will be posting whenever she felt like it, what I’m saying is that she is an occasional writer when some times she will write a lot and some times not it is according to her time and mood (secretly though I think she will post more often when she is in a bad mood) so expect and don’t. For me I do not mind what does she decides as long as she is here.
Now who is RJA007? She is the girl I met in high school, 10th grade. She was a newbie and I was a vintage student. I do not remember how we clicked but we did and ever since we became inseparable like old collocated words. She knows everything I mean EVERYTHING about me excluding the everyday boring life details.. even this she probably knows.. (Do you R?). She is my thinking mind when mines refuses to think. She is my half forever and always. She is always there for me.. I remember once calling her last semester just so I could pour my heart and shed some tears (TMI?). I love her so much to the extinct I’m willing to marry her if I could, and this is not lesbianism talk but girl-proud-of-girl talk. Whenever we see each other we act like we did not see each other in centuries and allow ourselves at least a minute grace of hugs, and say our goodbyes in hugs as well. She is the awesome-st girl ever because of course she is my friend ;p (kidding about the because friend thing). Um.. what else. Oh yeah she is a bachelor who has a diploma degree, on her way to getting a college degree and waiting for the bling bling to come by (don’t kill me R I’m kidding ;p). And even though we chose different study paths we managed to be together for the 5th year now I guess
Surprisingly enough I just knew about her abilities to write when she sent me a file of something she wrote telling me to comment on it and show my opinion. She didn’t use to write until just now and let me say I wouldn’t allowed her to be a part of this blog. I actually begged her at first to publish her writings on my blog but she refused.. let’s hope she shows her magic now and here. I’m not sure when she will start but just in case if it is her you will know as I normally sign my posts. Not a genius thing to figure out huh?
Anyway without furthermore talk here is my beloved gal RJA007!! I love you in Allah girl!!